The dating atmosphere we experience today is face-paced and is highly influenced by technology—it can be difficult navigating the world of online dating as a single person, but dating as a single mom?
This is not a watered down blog with sweet advice to make your online dating profile get lots of hits. Last time I checked fairy tales were just that, make believe, and there’s no such thing as the Fairy God Mother to wave her magic wand, say a little “bippity boppity boo”, and whisk us off to the castle to meet Prince Charming. This all started while I was sitting on a plane listening to music trying to figure out what my next blog topic will be and We have behaved badly; actually horrific is a better word. I’m convinced we must train men to treat us with respect. Now it’s time for me to take my own advice, and be courageous enough to write an honest blog about dating as a single mom. If you’re married, let this be the cautionary tale to make your marriage work. If you find yourself wondering why you can’t find a good man, I’m here to tell you, it’s most likely your own darn fault. If you truly want to find a good man, we have to BAND TOGETHER! If one of us disobeys this, we ruin it for everyone. I recently encountered a friend who couldn’t wait to spill her current dating snafu. Until, she got a text from his other girlfriend, whom he was apparently NOT celibate with. This woman was even willing to take the cheating dude back!!!! The new American Dream for blended families, right? Actually, my friend wasn’t obeying all of them either. They had “introduced the kids” and were shopping for a massive home. We have become so needy in our Cinderella complex that we are willing to accept dishonest behavior if we think the dude can financially support us. So, how do you protect yourself from this sort of thing from happening again?
The last thing a single mother and her children needs is another heartbreak, or worse, another divorce.
It was a revolutionary book designed to get us the most treasured possession that all single women want…
We followed, we got the guy, but then half of us lost that guy. I was asking him if I somehow looked like the kind of woman that would say yes to this scenario. He said that women in their 30s and 40s are the most aggressive, and explained they even get angry when he says, “no”He went on to say, that men in their 30s and 40s now don’t know what to do when women aren’t offering themselves to them on a silver platter, so they end up asking for it in inappropriate ways.
I was too scared to tell everyone that it happened because I would look like a failure. I recently had a long conversation with a trusted male friend of mine about this phenomenon. His response, “no, they are just used to women asking them first.” WHAT?! My friend explained it’s normal for him to go out in the single world and be propositioned by women.
I admit to being hit by someone I was dating, and I am embarrassed to tell you, I allowed the relationship to continue. It’s more of a failure to stay with that abusive man. He touches you and it hurts, it’s O-V-E-R, and hopefully it ends with a knock on the door from the police. It happens at restaurants, in the mall, at reunions, and even with the church boys. The moment you discover his “eye” has wandered, you end it.
These rules are designed to get us the NEW most treasured possession that all single women want… Then, after that maybe we’ll get the second most treasured possession, that ring in a blue box with a white bow. I’m about to get more real with you then I’ve ever been allowed to. Half of women admit to being abused in their lifetime, and those are the ones that admit to it. Honestly, I haven’t many any women who haven’t been abused. If you’re “out there” in the dating world, you know this to be true. It’s a regular occurrence to be “propositioned” and it’s not just at establishments where we don’t belong, you know the ones. Stop allowing yourself to be used as a toy instead of respected like the amazing woman that you are. If you are looking for a man to help you raise your amazing children, the ultimate gifts that God can ever give you, than why would waste your precious time and babysitting budget spending time with a man who can’t even be a dad to his own kids? I don’t care how bad your teeth are or how crappy the car you drive is, with match.com, tinder, e-harmony, and plenty of fish, any dude can get a date any night of the week. Even if you’ve had the talk about not seeing other people.