I’ve gone home alone a million times when she went home with a guy. You do the right thing and God blesses your friend who chose the wrong path.
I’ve waited and saved myself for my husband and she hasn’t. You wait for marriage, your friend doesn’t–and she and her husband have carefree, easy sex while you struggle. Recently, I talked with a woman who described this monumental day in her faith journey.
I don’t know why God healed her family, but not your own.
I don’t know why your growing baby has a deformity.
But I do know that we miss the panoramic, expansive view of grace if we are focused on everyone else’s story.
How could I do all the right things and him bless her instead of me?
You chose a career in full-time ministry and it feels like God blesses everyone else except you. It’s hard when we are doing the right things, and we see people doing the wrong things receiving the blessings that we desire. After hearing about God’s grace and mercy, she ran outside crying and sat underneath draping trees on her college campus because she just didn’t believe that mercy was for someone like her.
Maybe it’s a husband for you, or perhaps a certain job. At the time of her deepest despair, a gust of wind came and she heard the word, “Tirzah”.Maybe it’s school acceptance or healing for a family member. She had no idea what the meaning of the word, but heard it twice more.Whatever the circumstance, it’s common to compare and wonder what God is doing for others and not doing for us. For me, I moved to China to be a missionary and expected God to protect me from what I considered worst-case-scenario. He spared my friends, but allowed me to go through something extraordinarily difficult. Take a minute to let that soak in–Dad says we are his delight, his beloved.It was hard to wrap my mind around the fact that following Christ or doing the right thing or dating the right way didn’t guarantee blessings. I love to remind women that God is a good Dad because that truth took me more than a decade to realize. Why would God reward a ‘prodigal’ sister with a husband and allow you to stay single? When we measure our circumstances or compare our blessings to that of another, it’s easy to feel slighted, overlooked, and even abandoned. He is a good Dad loves you and blesses you no matter what you did or didn’t do.In theory, I rejected this prosperity Gospel, but my frustration with God displayed otherwise. But when we open our eyes to the grand story happening all around us, we see the astounding beauty that leaves us speechless. Not an obligatory love, but a love that delights in who you are.I don’t know why some women find husbands and others remain single.