If, during the courtship, one or both parties realize that marriage is not God’s will and they end the relationship, the courtship has not failed.On the contrary, the courtship was successful, because God gave the direction that was sought through it.Although the termination of a courtship most likely will be painful, damage and hurt—which can lead to bitterness—can be avoided.
Courtship is a relationship between a man and a woman in which they seek to determine if it is God’s will for them to marry each other.Under the protection, guidance, and blessing of parents or mentors, the couple concentrates on developing a deep friendship that could lead to marriage, as they discern their readiness for marriage and God’s timing for their marriage.(See Proverbs 3:5–7.) Courtship is a choice to avoid temptation and experience the blessings of purity.It is a choice to not emotionally give away your heart, piece by piece, to many others through casual dating relationships and instead to give your whole heart to your life partner.Men and women who choose to date often have no commitment to consider marrying the other person.
Maturity and readiness for marriage are not considerations in the decision to date.
Instead, couples usually date with the selfish goals of having fun and enjoying romantic attachments.
It is a choice to wait for God’s best, for His glory.
It is a decision to walk by faith, to trust in God, to honor others above yourself, and to believe that God will deal bountifully with you, because He is love.
(See II Corinthians 5:7, Psalm , Romans , Psalm 13, and I John 4:8.) Because each individual, family, and set of circumstances is unique, each courtship will be unique.
While those who choose courtship will hold to general guidelines for the relationship, their specific choices about when, where, and how to court may differ according to their needs and circumstances.