A few years ago, I was best friends with this girl L. She can never talk, she can never hang out, she’s ALWAYS with her boyfriend. She acts like nothing is wrong, but EVERYTHING is wrong.
While you're just friends you wear your fat pants, go without showering, and don't put on make up.You'd think that level of comfort would be good in a relationship, but you're missing a whole time in your relationship of dressing up and getting to know each other.Basically...there is no "honeymoon" stage of dating.You figure that because they know you really well, you won't fight much, and if you do, you at least know how to fight nicely with each other.In reality, you both have so much history on each other you can hit below the belt easily.
And don't think that just because you didn't fight then, you won't fight now. You try and hold together a friendship that once was, but how could you possibly stay friends after having been that intimate and sharing that part of your life with them.
Sex and commitment are great, but they come with fighting. Expectation: You think your relationship will span the decades, but you've made the promise that if anything were to happen you'll put your friendship first. Now every guy you see with her is going to drive you crazy because you know exactly what he gets to hold at night.
Dating your best friend may sound like a good idea in theory, but the practice of it is another story.
Now, first let me qualify something: when I say best friend, I am not talking about your guy friend who you have always had a secret crush on and with whom you have amazing chemistry.
I am talking about your best friend who is pretty much family and that you've always had a platonic relationship with.
He is the one to call you out when you're being a jerk, and he is your partner in crime.