If he hasn't already moved out, he probably never will. Doesn’t matter how big or small they are nobody messes with mama. Yup, he cares too much about his mother’s feelings than to consider his own first.
He’s got it good, he sleeps there rent-free, gets free daily maid service and doesn't have to grow-up.
So our question, do the positives of dating a mama's boy outweigh the negative? First up, here's the tell tale signs that his mum will always be his number one woman. Mums always want to know what their son’s are up to and if they’re willing to spill the beans (which most mama’s boys are) they’ll manipulate him to get him to talk. He has an intrusive mother who comes over unannounced every week for various reasons, to check up on him, to do him favours (any ironing dear? There’s nothing wrong with growing up with just a mama around, but their bond is probably unbreakable. In his eyes nothing is better than his mum's home cooking. He always says ‘my mum’s is the best’ or ‘sorry honey, you can't beat my mum’s. All of the sudden he's swinging off trees, doesn’t feel well, and is exhausted. If mom doesn't like what you're wearing or how you decorated the house he comes running for you to change it.
When you go over his mum’s for a family meal you can always see the little boy in him coming out. When you go shopping you’re always hinting at which pressies you want for Christmas, but all he seems to care about is what mommy wants. From bank calls to doctors appointments she’s got it covered. When a man is really attached to his mum he’ll ask you to change your ways. Mama’s boys want their mother’s to think the best of them so they’ll do anything and everything to impress her and at times, more than he does for you! There’s nothing worse than having his mom give you sex and relationship advice on how to pleasure her own son.
You’ve just come home from work and all you want to do is relax with your man, but somehow he ends up on the phone to his mama, whether she’s calling him off the hook or he’s constantly checking in sometimes you question who’s really the GF. When you get into a love spat over something she said or did he always defends her with ‘she’s my mom’. His mom has a way of getting him to feel guilty if he’s not doing things her way. Some mothers can’t accept that their children are growing up. His mom is the most important person to him so if mama ain't happy he isn't either.
He might spend so much time with her that you wonder who's actually in the relationship. It can happen, but on the other hand, mama’s boys do come with some major perks. Have you ever found his mum throwing jabs at you (directly or indirectly)?
These type of men tend to understand their girlfriend's better and seem to have more respect and love towards their partners. And despite having a one to one conversation with him she always manages to interfere even when she's not actually there. We pray it’s not a monster-in-law situation, but if she’s constantly hugging and kissing him more than you’ve ever done it’s GAME ON girl. Actually, they tend to be more respectful and kind towards their partners, which is a major plus for us.
Does your sweetheart have the mummy's boy syndrome? If you're dating a man who clearly loves his mum it's almost ALWAYS a good sign. If you're man is still living at home and he's over 25 or if he's always calling mum for help and advice on every aspect of his life, then maybe this whole mother and son bond thing isn't as great as you hoped. For the sake of your future, he needs to do it himself.
You're right to raise an eyebrow, but (and this is a BIG but) mama's boys are so understanding towards their women, not to mention pretty thoughtful too. Hardly surprising when she does literally everything for him! Your boyf thinks she’s amazing, but you think she’s nuts!