Whether adult children of toxic parents were beaten when little or left alone too much, sexually abused or treated like fools, overprotected or overburdened by guilt, they almost all suffer surprisingly similar symptoms: damaged self-esteem, leading to self-destructive behavior.
In one way or another, they almost all feel worthless, unlovable, and inadequate.
When these children become adults, they continue to bear these burdens of guilt and inadequacy, making it extremely difficult for them to develop a positive selfimage.
Naturally, as children grow older, loving parents will nourish their maturity by giving them certain responsibilities and household duties, but never at the expense of childhood. Parents are only human, and have plenty of problems of their own.And most children can deal with an occasional outburst of anger as long as they have plenty of love and understanding to counter it.But there are many parents whose negative patterns of behavior are consistent and dominant in a child’s life. Like a chemical toxin, the emotional damage inflicted by these parents spreads throughout a child’s being, and as the child grows, so does the pain.What better word than toxic to describe parents who inflict ongoing trauma, abuse, and denigration on their children, and in most cases continue to do so even after their children are grown?Without them, we would be unloved, unprotected, unhoused, and unfed, living in a constant state of terror, knowing we were unable to survive alone. In a reasonably stable family, parents are able to withstand much of the anxiety that these changes create.
The expression “it’s just a phase” becomes a standard assurance for understanding parents, who remember their own teenage years and appreciate rebellion as a normal stage of emotional development. From toilet training through adolescence, they tend to see rebellion or even individual differences as a personal attack.They defend themselves by reinforcing their child’s dependence and helplessness.This website template has been designed by Free Website Templates for you, for free. You can remove any link to our website from this website template, you're free to use this website template without linking back to us.If you're having problems editing this website template, then don't hesitate to ask for help on the Forums.Children have basic inalienable rights—to be fed, clothed, sheltered, and protected.But along with these physical rights, they have the right to be nurtured emotionally, to have their feelings respected, and to be treated in ways that allow them to develop a sense of self-worth. They have a right to spend their early years being playful, spontaneous, and irresponsible.