Counseling for dating couples

In the first 3-6 months of a relationship, you are likely running on oxytocin, which is a chemical found in chocolate.

It creates the sense of well-being and euphoria that comes with “falling in love.” This might as well be dubbed the period of temporary insanity, because you are not in command of all your faculties; your brain is hijacked by those lovely chemicals, interfering with your ability to think clearly.

This form of manipulation is simply unacceptable (to put it mildly), and does not lead to healthy relationships.

You will get further in less time in finding a relationship if you allow yourself to be genuine.

It’s OK to put your best foot forward, and also to be a bit cautious, but have the courage to be upfront and show who you are. Talking too much about your ex: While this information will eventually be shared at least to some extent, it shouldn’t be discussed in detail during the initial phase of a relationship.

You want to get to know the person and each have a chance for a fresh start.

Carrying old baggage into a new relationship amounts to clutter.

If you have baggage, then best to work it out in individual therapy before pursuing a new relationship, at least to a point where it isn’t affecting your reactions and clouding your judgment. Fantasizing about the future: While men are typically (not always) the masters of game playing, women have this one down pat.When you catch yourself trying on his last name before the third date, it’s time to remind yourself to slow down. Game playing: This strategy is usually employed for one of two reasons. When it comes to dating, everyone, on some level, fears rejection.Playing it cool and not getting too involved may make you feel safe, but you risk coming across as aloof or remote, and may turn the other person off.Balance between demonstrating interest and maintaining your composure is best.Another reason people play games is to get something you want that you wouldn’t likely get if you played it straight.