Many fields that used to be havens for loners, like programming, increasingly require exceptional people skills.
“The jobs that are staying in the United States are those that require regular touch, face-to-face contact with clients or a manager,” says Erran Carmel, chair of the Information Technology department at American University.
If we increase the performance pressure only for men, we will reinforce men’s need to objectify women – which will lead to more rape.
Men will be our rapists as long as men are our initiators.…
It’s hard to underestimate the impact of good social skills on your career.
Warren Farrell (born June 26, 1943) is an American educator, activist and author of seven books on men's issues with women. Nearly 40 percent of college women acknowledged they had said “no” to sex even “when they meant yes.” In my own work with over 150,000 men and women – about half of whom are single – the answer is also yes.
He has served on the New York City Board of the National Organization for Women, and is a prominent voice in the Men's movement. Almost all single women acknowledge they have agreed to go back to a guy’s place “just to talk” but were nevertheless responsive to his first kiss.
Almost all acknowledge they’ve recently said something like “That’s far enough for now,” even as her lips are still kissing and her tongue is still touching his.
The empowerment of women lies not in the protection of females from date rape, but in resocializing both sexes to share date initiative taking and date paying so that both date rape and date fraud are minimized.
In fact, across the board, in a wide variety of businesses, people would rather work with someone who is likeable and incompetent than with someone who is skilled and obnoxious, said Tiziana Casciaro, professor at Harvard Business School, whom I spoke to on the phone.
“How we value competence changes depending on whether we like someone or not.” And people who lack social competence end up looking like they lack other competencies, too.
When it comes to holding down a job, social skills matter today more than ever.
For people who want to break into a popular field like entertainment, for example, the only way to differentiate yourself at the bottom is to be likeable.