The fact of the matter is most people spend very little time researching and getting to know the other person before they start datingthey just jump into the relationship. They have fears of unwanted pregnancy, date rape, drug use, physical abuse, or simply having their children get a needless and unnecessary broken heart.Carolyn commented she first had to try and figure out why her parents didn’t like her boyfriend.They said he lied, cheated, and I shouldn’t be involved with him. So I thought about what they said and talked to more people. It only shows them you are too immature to be in the relationship they are so worried about.
Another question you could ask them is What should my bf/gf do to win your trust? Remember, most of the time they are right and who wants to gamble with the few times they might be wrong, just for the sake of having a bf/gf.
Ask you parents if they would be willing to meet with your bf/gf and have them explain their reservations to him/her.
If your bf/gf refuses to meet with your parents, that’s a sure sign he/she is not respectful to you or your parents.
Finding someone to love who loves you in return is difficult.
Learning how to deal with conflicts within that relationship can be extremely painful, as well.
But it’s entirely different when, for some reason, you discover When you discover your parents strongly disapprove of your bf/gf, your first inclination will be to pull away from them and continue your dating relationship behind their back. Never secretly date someone your parents don’t want you to date.
Having secrets and lies between you and your parents ruins trust and causes needless stress and drama which will affect your self-esteem, grades, and even your other friends.
Just because they are your parents and you don’t agree with them doesn’t make them dumb. Although far from perfect, they have years of experience and wisdom you don’t.
This can allow them to see the character faults in your bf/gf a whole lot easier than you, especially if you’re blinded by the deep emotions you feel for your bf/gf. They have the advantage of perspective or big picturethey realize over 90% of high school dating ends up not working out.
Parents remember their own good and bad choices while dating.
They just want you to be protected from bad consequences which could affect the rest of your life.